9 HAPPINESS SECRETS

The 9 Happiness Secrets by Brian Vaszily

1) Embrace New Experiences.
Most people suffer from merely existing versus really living. Don’t
get caught in a rut; get out of it if you are. Explore. Play. Go
beyond your comfort zone. Don’t lean on the excuse “I don’t have
time to try new things.” It is as tragic and ridiculous as saying
“I don’t have time to breathe.” New experiences are life. Live
deeply.

2) Be Who You Are.
Recognize and clear through what others expect of you, including
society’s expectations, your parents’ expectations, the opposite
genders’ expectations, and anyone’s expectations. Recognize and
clear through the guilt, anger, fear and other emotions that are
sabotaging you. What are your dreams? Your goals? Your loves? Who
are you? Be that person.

3) Let Go of the Past.
The past is good for two things: the happy memories, and the
lessons it provides. Clinging to resentment and sadness for past
events hurts one person the most: you. Don’t let the past suck the
gift of the present out of you. Forgive. Let go. Be here now, and
go forward.

4) Be Kind.
It is easy to act kindly to those who have been kind to you. Do so,
but also remember that is not where kindness is needed most. Recall
those many times where you made mistakes, where you reacted out of
negative emotions instead of responding from who you really are.
Recall how you felt, or how you would have felt, if others
responded to your mistakes with kindness instead of harsh criticism
or a cold shoulder. Negativity only breeds more negativity.
Empathize, and choose to be kind. It spreads rapidly.

5) Be Responsible for Yourself.
Whatever happens, however promising or tragic, only one person is
responsible for how you respond to it: you. There are no greater
wastes of energy and potential than blame, envy, a desire for
revenge, and wallowing in self-pity. You and only you are
responsible for how you respond to anything and how you act. You
wish others were a certain way? You wish the world were a certain
way? Be the example.

6) Nurture Relationships.
Think of your most joyful moments. Think of all you have learned.
Think of what has helped you grow. Chances are great these all
involve other people, and other relations such as pets and nature
too. There are over six billion people on this earth. There are
infinite relationships to be had. Everyone has something to
understand and to learn from. There is infinite love to be had, and
to give. You can choose to be lonely, but you are never alone.

7) Recognize All You Have, and Be Grateful for It.
If you are alive, you are fortunate. If you can read this, you are
fortunate. If you can walk, talk, see, smell, taste, or feel, or
all of these, you are fortunate. You are what you focus on, so if
you focus on what you lack, you become that lack. Focus on all that
you do have, on the gifts inside and all around you. Be grateful to
be great.

8) Do What Inspires You.
Painting, singing, writing, biking, swimming, gardening, reading,
dancing, walking, woodcarving … what is your flame? What ignites
you, inspires you, enlightens you, restores your life? Do it, and
do it often. Do not believe your excuse of having too much work to
do and too little time for what inspires you. Doing what inspires
you is the very fuel that will give you the strength and motivation
to do the other things you need to do, and do them well.

9) Remember that Happiness is a State, Not a Circumstance
Happiness is a state of being, not merely a moment of pleasure or
joy. By committing to your happiness you acknowledge and accept
that there will be times of challenge and suffering, but by staying
true to who you are you will not just endure but thrive. Happiness
is not just the bird floating serenely on the water, and happiness
is not made unhappy by the rock that falls and temporarily disturbs
the water. Happiness is the water itself, always being exactly what
it is.


Please pass The 9 Timeless Secrets of Being Happy on to family,
friends and co-workers. Please pass it on to teachers so they can
share it with their students. Please pass it on to bloggers,
journalists, politicians and anyone who reaches large numbers of
people so they can share it too. I wrote it to be shared, because I
simply believe good things will come to all of us with the message
it carries on being happy. I hope you agree. -- Brian Vaszily

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